Catching Up 4.11.2020

Hello all, I almost can’t believe that this is my first blog post of 2020 but at the same time I think that perfectly illustrates how chaotic 2020 has been. When I first decided to write a blog post today it was just to talk about my mini holiday. However after realising that this is the first blog of 2020 I feel I should spend some time catching up on what’s been happening.

The short version would be that I started working for the charity Umbrella Lane, then COVID19 hit the UK and since then it’s been a blur of chaos and doing my best to survive.

But if you’ve been around for any length of time then you know I have so much more to tell you and that this will be a very long blog post (sorry not sorry). You’ve been warned, leave now if you don’t want to read 10 months worth of updates.

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New Years – 31.12.19

Hello lovelies!

Here we are at the end of the year and the eve of the new year. It’s an energising time of year, a time of reflections and resolutions. So let’s make today’s post about the things that have happened this year and finish with looking to the future.






The start of the year was much like the rest of the year: hectic.

But I did manage to get some fabulous photo shoots, one for my birthday and one for Burn’s night.





February was Valentine’s day and again I got some lovely shoots organised. It was also when I started sending out the rewards from my Suicide Girls Hopeful Set Kickstarter (try saying that 3 times fast haha). I’m still so unbelievably thankful to everyone that chipped in to that Kickstarter and I am considering doing another one in the future but there are so many things I would change. So I’ll keep you updated on that haha.





March went by in a bit of a blur to be honest, there was a fun witchy shoot and prep for Easter shoots. I got along to a local LARP that I’d been meaning to go to for the longest time, so that was fun. Spent so much time with Bouncer at the park hahaha.





Started with my hair colour being refreshed by my favourite hairdressers ^_^ it’s always nice to start the month with a colour top up. There was a lot of exploring in April, seeing as the weather was better. I went to the Botanic Gardens, and abandoned Walled Garden, Chatelherault, Glasgow Green and an abandoned cement mill. Then of course I had my Easter bunny photo shoot. Finishing the month off over in Edinburgh for the Beltane Fire Festival!





Started with the trek home from Edinburgh and just over a week later was followed up with a trek down south for LARP. The weather was reaching its peak – thankfully this was when my Bandelettes arrived! Just as we were getting into the warmest weather – when the risk of chub rub is at its highest – and honestly, I still can’t describe how much better they made my life. It’s amazing what a band of lace can do haha. The end of May had the AMOTY2019 auditions (which I made it through but couldn’t attend the finals).





Had some very interesting photo shoots, not all of which were my favourite but it was certainly a good learning experience. It was also the month we took Bouncer on an accidental 3 hour walk…having decided to explore a back path at Chatelherault but not realising how long it was…ooops. I went along to a small protest in Glasgow to draw attention to the fact that the government was considering legislation that would shut down strip clubs and potentially put 700 workers out of a job. Ended up in the papers haha. Went swimming in a stream up North. Had a BBQ in a thunderstorm – as is becoming the tradition. 





Is when a very lovely fan bought me a big floppy sun hat to save me from the strange glowing orb that had decided to visit Scotland. It was also started off with a wonderful group shoot with my gals! We – as usual – got up to plenty of mischief and got tons of awesome photos. I continued to go along to #AskThe700 campaign days in Glasgow, giving out flyers, trying to get people to fill in the consultation and generally doing my best to raise awareness and fight stigma. In line with that, I was over the moon that my “Stop Censoring Sluts” crop top from BeABimbo & Exotic Cancer arrived whilst the weather was still good. It’s super comfy and I can’t wait for the sun to come back so I can wear it more often (and without freezing my tummy). July was also when Glasgow held it’s MardiGla day – which was essentially a mini pride event. Lot’s of LGBT+ friendly stalls and merch. Amazing people wearing fabulous outfits. I got so many badges! It was good fun. The month finished up with a hair colour top up, some photo shoots and a picnic with pizza!





Brought a visit from my Mum and another trek down south for LARP. I got to play a very spooky tooth monster, which I loved and the players hated haha. Whilst my Mum was visiting, we also went to see my Sister and an old family friend, which was nice. I went to my second nerf game and got shot a lot haha. The month finished off with a protest against Brexit (I’m still holding out hope that we come to our senses) and some time with friends.





Brought a bit of house tidying, a trip to ikea and very pretty new lingerie.As well as a spooky home shot Friday the 13th shoot. I took my youngest Sister to get her hair dyed for the first time, which was very exciting. She settled on a very summery beach look after changing her mind four times haha. It was gorgeous though. Went down South for a Nerf game, had a great time and got to explore a giant army surplus shop. The end of the month was my partner’s birthday and you can guarantee we got up to plenty of fun things to celebrate haha. 





Is the best month because no one judges you for getting dressed up! So I took full advantage of that and got as many spooky Halloween shoots as I could. Even the LARP event that month was spooky! I got to play a very fun spooky goo monster and jump scare players. I pulled together my Booette costume (which I’ll be getting proper pictures of for next year) thanks to the brilliant craft work of one of my LARP friends. I got along to a Scot-Pep fundraiser event with Jazz and had a lovely evening,despite getting a little lost trying to find the place haha. Then on the 30th it was Bouncer’s birthday! So as is becoming tradition, we all put on our pumpkin attire and went for a walk to play in the big park. Finishing the month with the spookiest day of all spent helping out at a Domme session ^_^ Although I suppose I should mention it was October when I kind of realised I wasn’t coping as well as I was pretending I was and finally went to the doctor to try and get some help, it was also when I decided I was going to stop drinking for a while. But it was still a good month and lots of fun.





Started with a belated Halloween party. My Booette costume got lots of love – especially after I explained what it was haha. I had a marvellous brunch with all of the people that survived the party. Then had to return to normality, tidying up my flat and doing a little rearranging of my room. Got my hair topped up just in time for my JacqTheStripper t-shirt to arrive! Granted I had gotten a bigger size than I needed but I always worry about sizing online and I’d rather something was a bit bigger than a bit small. I went to two Nerf events in a row and got to slide down a skate park ramp whilst also having managed to hit slightly more people than I had before – steady progress. I got started on the xmas themed shoots towards the end of November. Figured I’d try and stay ahead as long as I could. I had also spent the month doing a fair bit of volunteering for both THT and Umbrella Lane which was great and I’m hoping to continue my work with both of them in the new year. 





Has flown by, it’s the 31st as I’m writing this blog and honestly I don’t know where the time has gone haha. It’s been a ridiculously busy month. It started with a last minute work trip to Edinburgh for a few days. Using my free time to make up sashes for Cirque De Fetiche which was being held on the 20th that I’d only really gotten on board with during the last week of November. As soon as I returned from Edinburgh I had a photo shoot with the gals then I was basically spending all of my free time doing work for CDF, writing up planning docs, making a Twitter, making content for social media as well as getting myself ready for it. With a small break on the 12th to go and vote and try to encourage other people to vote too. The advantage to being in control of so many different social media accounts is that I can reach a far larger audience and potentially get more people up and doing things. We didn’t really bother with xmas decorations this year but my friend made us a wreath for our door which was lovely. I topped up my colour at home and even went to the trouble of matching all of my fluff haha. Went to see the new Star Wars at the midnight showing, despite being thoroughly exhausted from working so much. I enjoyed it but don’t worry I won’t go into it so there’s no spoilers here. The day of the CDF event arrived and as expected was chaotic as hell but we managed. I’m beyond grateful to all of my friends that came along and lent a hand. We would have really struggled if they hadn’t given us their time. I slept until about 3pm the day after the event – granted we didn’t get home until 4:30am but I was so dead. Surprisingly, my feet were mostly fine, I had survived 5 hours in 7 inch stripper heels! Then on Sunday I went along to see Closet Organ playing in town, I was too tired to stay for the whole gig but I was really glad I managed to see them perform. It was a very enjoyable gig and if I hadn’t been so tired I think  it could have been a proper riot of a night. Then it was xmas day and I was still exhausted but we had a lovely dinner with the family and got home and slept like logs. I’ve spent the last of this month resting, prepping and doing some charity shop hunting. Tonight I’ll be heading down to the borders to have new years with some friends I only see once a blue moon so I’m looking forward to it. Plus it’ll be a great chance to get rid of some of the alcohol I still have in the flat haha. It’s a weird transition moving from the “party flat” to the “we don’t drink” flat but I do think it’s for the best. So that’s it for 2019. It’s been a bonkers year but it had a lot of good stuff. 





As much as I’m not a huge fan of New Year’s resolutions I do like to try and set myself goals and think about things I’d like to do in the new year. I never really put too much emphasis into them because I know if I did then I’d get really stressed out if I don’t achieve them. So I keep it casual or I set small goals that I’m sure I’ll be able to accomplish.


For 2020, I’d like to learn to do the splits (both ways). I think that’s achievable if I keep up my stretching.


Other things I’d like to happen that probably won’t are things like: learning to drive, getting a car and buying a house. Mostly because those all rely on having money. Being freelance tends to mean money isn’t very stable so you have to take each day as it comes.


But I’m feeling positive that 2020 will be a year of continuing growth, I’ve already got so many plans and ideas for the year so as long as I can stay motivated, I think it’ll be good.


Plus I’m getting married in 2020 so it’s bound to be a great year haha!


Whatever the new year brings you and whatever 2019 was for you I hope that you can stay safe and be happy x


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International Day To End Violence Against Sex Workers 2019 – 17.12.19

Afternoon all, I know it’s been a while since my last blog post and I have so much to catch you up on but today is a very important day and deserves it’s own blog post.


Today (17th December 2019) is International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers day.

It’s a day of remembrance and hope for the future for workers across the world.

Here in Scotland there are multiple sex worker led charities that have arranged events to commemorate the occasion and to bring the community together. I’ll be attending Umbrella Lane’s vigil this evening in Glasgow, where we’ll be remembering those we’ve lost and sharing our hopes and wishes for the future. If you’re a worker in the Glasgow area and want to get involved then feel free to reach out to them on social media or via their website.


If you’ve been following me for any length of time then you’ll be well aware that sex work is something I’m always striving to fight the stigma of and to continue fighting for rights and policy that the workers themselves are asking for.

Unfortunately in recent times I’ve been hearing that Scotland is considering following the harmful lead of the “Nordic Model” and is looking to criminalise buyers. I could go into a full on rant as to why this is bad but frankly I don’t have the energy right now – the information is out there – Google it.

Which brings me to my closing points for today’s blog.

As with all minority groups struggling to fight stigma and gain rights, we don’t always have the energy to educate everyone on everything. You can’t expect the already oppressed to use up all of their energy to inform those that live comfortably in the category of the oppressors. Educate yourself. Tip a sex worker. Pay for your porn. Vote for politicians that support workers and not “exit programs”. Listen to the people these policies will have a direct effect on. Fight for social security. Look out for your neighbours. Build a stronger community and remember that we’re all human beings just trying to survive in this world.

And as always, stay safe and be happy x

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EU Testing Week 2019

Hello lovely people of the internet, I hope you’re all well as you read this.

For today’s blog I wanted to have a quick chat about EU Testing Week which is running from the 22nd to the 29th of November this year (check out their Twitter and website). And as the name suggests, it’s a week dedicated to getting people tested. Their mission is to get people to get tested to know their status to in turn end new transmissions of HIV and other Blood Born Viruses (hepatitis for example).

As I work with Terrence Higgins Trust (a HIV and BBV charity in the UK) I’ve already been seeing a ton of events and info so I thought I’d post a few of their posts here in case you haven’t seen them ^_^ (follow THT on Twitter!)


I know I’ve talked about getting tested before and I’m pretty sure we all know it’s an important thing to do if we’re sexually active but it’s also important to normalise getting tested and talking about our sexual health.

Wouldn’t it be great if we could get to the stage where going for an STI test was treated like going for a routine dental check up?

In exciting news – I learned last night during my buddy shift at the clinic, that there is now an online booking system (for the UK) to book your test! Fair enough the system feels a bit clunky but it exists! That’s awesome ^_^ I’m looking forward to being able to book an appointment online and not have to worry about it anymore.

Click here to check out the online booking system NASH (National Sexual Health)

And as always if you can spare some money to support the charities that provide testing services then please consider donating.

Hope you all have a wonderful week.

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Scot-Pep 30th Anniversary & Fundraiser – 27.10.19

Hey all!

If you follow me on my socials then you’ll likely have seen me posting about going to the Scot-Pep event yesterday, I had meant to talk about it before now but had so many other things on my mind. No worries though, I figured I’d fill you all in on what Scot-Pep is and what was happening at the event.

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What is Scot-Pep?

Scot-Pep is a charity organisation that seeks to promote the rights, safety and health of sex workers. They’re primarily focused on Scotland but work in partnership with other sex work charities both within the UK and internationally.

You can find out more about Scot-Pep and the work they’re doing here.

They’re a lovely group of people doing some great work so it’s well worth checking them out and maybe even consider donating to them if you can ^_^


Who Was The Fundraiser For?

For their 30th anniversary Scot-Pep held a fundraiser event at Glasgow Autonomous Space with the proceeds going to Ubuntu Women Shelter. UWS is a Glasgow based women’s shelter that helps those in need to find emergency shelter if they’re unable to access other homeless resources – so they’re especially useful for migrant women which in the current political climate is something we should really be looking at giving our full support to. Be sure to check out their website for more information and again it’s a great cause so if you’re able to donate then please do.



What Was My Role?

I was helping out a little with the event by doing a super short shift behind the bar. It was only an hour and it was lots of fun. All of the volunteers are super friendly and everyone at the event was cheerful and easy to chat with.


So What Was The Event Like?

It was great! I brought Jazz along and despite getting a little lost trying to find it we were made to feel very welcomed and comfortable from the second we got in the door.

The bar was reasonably priced and had non-alcoholic options as well as alcoholic which was nice to see.

There was a quiet/safe space up stairs that you could use if you needed a bit of space as well as having well being volunteers available if you wanted someone to talk to.

The DJ was fabulous and had a great selection of music that got people up and dancing (plus her dress was super cute).

There was a raffle! Which I had no idea was going to be a thing and it had so many cool prizes. Unfortunately I wasn’t lucky enough to win any of them but I’ll be sure to track down a few of the items to buy for myself at some point haha.

Although the best part of the night was the entertainment ^_^ Jazz and I only managed to stay for the first performance as we had to catch the last train home but she was fantastic. “Lazy of the Night” was the stage name and she sang 3 songs for us whilst doing a little bit of a dance but more just putting on a show. The crowd loved it and I’m sure the other performances were just as good.


And that was that ^_^ it was a really fun night and I think they raised a fair bit of money (will hopefully update you with a figure in the near future). Hope you had a lovely weekend everyone!

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