Hello lovelies, I hope you’ve had a nice start to the week. Today I wanted to have a bit of a ramble about a topic I struggle with and that I think a lot of people struggle with: accepting help.
We’re fed a lot of stories where the protagonist manages to make themselves into something from nothing either with no help or very little help from others. Usually there’s a whole bit of plot dedicated to teaching the protagonist they need help and need to rely on others which is nice and something I think we all need reminded of from time to time. Accepting help from friends and family doesn’t take away from the hard work you put into something, it doesn’t somehow make you weaker or any less capable. Everyone needs a little boost every now and then.
I’m a ridiculously stubborn person at times. I’ve gotten very used to doing things by myself and not reaching out to anyone when things start getting a bit much. Although it’s a toxic mentality to have, I definitely have a “if I don’t do it then it won’t be done right” mentality, it’s something I’m trying to work on changing but it takes time. The only way I’ll be able to change my mentality is by reaching out and trusting other people, accepting help when I need it.
Accepting help from others can involve a lot of trust and trusting other people can be hard. Or sometimes we just don’t want to be a burden on the people we care about. We can end up feeling like no one will care even if we do reach out or that there are other people worse off so we should just deal with it. But if we allow ourselves to reject help or even reject the idea that we deserve help then we’ll spiral down into some very dark places that can be really hard to get out of.
I’m not saying you should treat your friends and family as your therapist/councillor, just reach out and let them know you’re struggling. Find someone you trust and ask if you can talk to them about what’s on your mind. If you don’t want to trouble people you know then you can always see if there are any services available to you locally. Whether that’s a health service, financial advice or just a talk service/helpline – there’s a whole bunch of things available now that we’re so lucky to have.
Just don’t be afraid to seek out help.
I’ve had counselling twice in my life so far and to be honest would love to get another haha. I’ve had help from my family and friends more times than I can count. My fans are constantly helping me – they help support me so I can actually do the job that I love. Getting help isn’t something to be embarrassed about, it’s totally normal and everyone does it at some point or another.
Don’t suffer in silence, stay safe and be happy x